It’s been about 3 weeks since I deactivated my Facebook account. I knew I wouldn’t delete it permanently- I love social media and the chance to watch and connect with people I don’t get to see often. However, for my own sanity, I had to take a break. I can’t say the exact moment that …
Category Archives: Race
On Being 40 and Unbothered
Today is the one week anniversary of my 40th birthday. I looked forward to turning 40 for at least 5 years. Some of my best girlfriends are over 40 and they told me that once the year came I would be different. Things that used to bother me wouldn’t bother me and I’d find freedom …
Why I Can’t Just Forget
With each day that passes it seems as though my memory has gotten worse. I don’t think it’s anything serious – more a combination of fatigue, parenthood, and age. There are some things though that are etched in my memory that pop up and replay themselves. As 2019 has begun I’ve heard and seen the …
Black Exhaustion
Botham Jean died in his apartment. An off-duty police officer allegedly mistook his apartment for hers, let herself in, and killed him. Three days later she was arrested on a manslaughter charge. I’ve watched this story unfold on social media and in the news. I have my theories and suppositions but none of them matter. …
Black Mothers Don’t Hug Their Daughters
I saw those words as I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed the other night and immediately thought I’d misread it. Surely it said, ‘Black mothers, hug your daughters more’. I scrolled back up, only to find that I had indeed read it correctly the first time. I tucked it away in the recesses of my …
Discretion
When I Googled the word discretion, I came across this definition, 'the freedom to decide what should be done in a particular situation'. The first three synonyms given are choice, option, preference. Twice in the past five days I've heard the word 'discretion' used in such a way that my blood has boiled, my mind …
Princess and the Frog
When Josephine was three her godparents bought her a beautiful Princess Tiana doll. We watched the movie and she became a fan. A year later, about two weeks after school started, she decided she didn’t like Tiana anymore. When her dad asked her why, she said that a friend at school told her she shouldn’t …
#FakeOutrage
I’ve been on a hiatus from blogging because I’m trying to take my own advice regarding my belief that everything that comes in your head doesn’t have to come out of your mouth. The hiatus is over. I need people to stop with the fake outrage. I need people to stop pretending to be offended …
The Bubble of Ignorance
Disclaimer: This post may be longer than usual. If you’re friends with me on Facebook you know that I’ve had a lot to say about the upcoming elections, the recent shootings of black people by police, and the overall shenanigans that have unfolded in our country over the last few months. I spend a lot …
The Blessing and Curse of Silence
When I was a kid I loved noise. I loved the sound of people talking, the TV on, music, etc. It gave me a sense of life, of action. It meant that things were ‘happening’ all around me. As I’ve gotten older and my home has become filled with the constant humdrum of two young …