In a couple of days, my sweet girl will celebrate another trip around the sun. Like I do in January, she looks forward to her birthday with an obnoxious amount of excitement while I silently weep at the fact that my 'baby' is quickly moving towards double digits. The last few months have been particularly …
Troubled Waters
I sent the image to a friend. He's working on some motivational speaking pieces and I thought it was a great topic. He told me I should blog about it and I chuckled and thought to myself that he was using some motivational, reverse psychology on me and I filed it away as a draft. …
Black Mothers Don’t Hug Their Daughters
I saw those words as I scrolled through my Facebook newsfeed the other night and immediately thought I'd misread it. Surely it said, 'Black mothers, hug your daughters more'. I scrolled back up, only to find that I had indeed read it correctly the first time. I tucked it away in the recesses of my …
Through the Wrong Lens
I have a progressive eye disease that requires me to wear contact lenses to have the most precise vision. They are very tiny, a wee bit larger than a pencil eraser, and the right lens is marked with a small black dot so I don't mix them up. Today things were a bit blurry but …
Reflections on 36
In a little over an hour I'll turn 37 years old. It feels weird coming out of my mouth because I don't necessarily know that I had any idea of what I'd 'be like' when I was 37 and I'm pretty sure I'm only turning 25. What I do know is that 36 was a …
New Year’s Resolutions
Got ya! I stopped making resolutions about seven years ago. It's not a coincidence that my boycott of this tradition began when I suffered from post-partum depression. To a very large degree, my depression was triggered by motherhood not going as planned. The perfect picture I had in my head quickly turned into a tragedy …
Suffering in Silence
I've been listening and watching the news a lot lately. Like many, I have been astonished at the number of accusations of sexual harassment and sexual assault that have come to light. There have been countless articles, think pieces, hashtags, and opinions about who, why, and how. One question that keeps coming up is, why …
Bawling in the Garage
Last Monday I had a meltdown. I'm talking sitting in my car, in the garage bawling my eyes out, couldn't think, got dressed to go to work and didn't go type of meltdown. I had already decided that I needed to start going through therapy again to work out some issues, but I knew last …
Pajamas at Swim Lessons
Monday I took Josephine to swim lessons in my pajamas. The entire outfit wasn't pajamas (I had on leggings and a cardigan to class it up) but I may or may not have slept in the tunic I was wearing. Either way, it's not something I would wear to work or even the grocery store, …
The Gospel of Mary J. Blige
I was 13 when Mary J.'s 'My Life' album dropped. I was an extremely angsty and depressed teenager and when I listened to it I was positive that she had written that album just for me. I listened to it often and when I fell head over heels in love with my husband at Freshman …