Mama Bunkfish

Navigating marriage, motherhood, and mental illness on Jesus, caffeine, and naps!

It Ain’t My Fault

If you were a teenager or young adult in the late nineties, chances are you are familiar with ‘It Ain’t My Fault’ by Silkk The Shocker and Mystical. No? Okay, moving on.

Anyway, one very recent morning I couldn’t conjure up the words to this song and said, out loud, to my children, that our terrible morning was all my fault. I had overslept, they didn’t want to get up, and I was forced to feed them graham crackers and Gogurt for breakfast. As they stood in the kitchen visibly upset at one of my ‘Crazy Mommy’ rants, I apologized because I should’ve done better. And as the day went on, my precocious (which is really a nice way of saying obnoxious) son reminded me, ‘Mommy, today was your fault’.

The honest truth is – I wasn’t sorry!! I was mad. I was mad that I overslept, I was mad that I made plans to go to work when I was technically on summer vacation, and I was mad that I was mad at myself for feeding my kids graham crackers and yogurt!! I mean really…they ate didn’t they?

As parents, we often get mad when things don’t go the way we planned. We usually take it out on the kids or ourselves, or make ourselves martyrs…like I did. STOP IT!! It’s okay if you oversleep sometimes (or EVERY day like I tend to), It’s okay if you make plans and have to cancel because the very idea of getting dressed sends the whole house into a tizzy. And guess what…nobody’s to blame!! It’s called PARENTHOOD.

And sometimes the things that happen….ain’t your fault.

Until next time.

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